Sunday, February 26, 2012

Update 26 February 2012



Another week has sped by, and thus ends February break.


Tuesday was a fun-filled day for us. Grandpa helped Arianna’s second-to-last baby tooth, a molar, out of her mouth. (The generous tooth fairy redeemed this act with an unheard of $2 for a single tooth!) Later that evening, Grandpa treated us to dinner at Claim Jumper. We returned home to a wild and over-planned Mardi Gras party—complete with feathered masks, gold beads, and glowing accessories. The kids kept us busy with ring toss games and dancing until 10pm, and still we did not have time for all of their entertainment aspirations. 


We returned to California on Wednesday, happy to see Kirk and to be surrounded by our comfort items. Carlos absolutely forbade me to take them anywhere on Thursday because he did not want to miss another moment with his toys/TV/Wii. Thursday afternoon, he announced that we would be spending the following day at La Brea. Who am I to argue with El Rey Carlos? So, we made the time-consuming and tedious trek into downtown Los Angeles (2 hours for 12 miles).


Since we visited the tar pits only 6 months ago, I was surprised by how much I learned during this excursion. We happened to enter the Page Museum as a free tour materialized, and the zoologist that led us shared a number of interesting details. Here is a random assortment of the facts that stood out to me.

  • A full-grown mammoth could become fatally stuck in just 4 inches of tar. (Animals don’t sink into tar; they become immobilized by the goo and then die by starvation or by becoming another animal’s meal.)
  • For every 1 herbivore found in the tar pits (more accurately, the “asphalt seeps”), there are 9 carnivores. (This counteracts logic since herbivores consistently outnumber carnivores throughout history. But the unfortunate carnivores whose remains we find in the tar pits hunted in packs and died in packs.)
  • Paleontologists can tell whether an animal is a carnivore/predator or herbivore/prey based on its eye sockets (exception: dinosaurs). Predators have forward-facing eyes (ex: humans, lions, dogs) that allow for depth perception. “Prey” animals (ex: squirrels, horses) have side-facing eyes that take in a greater range of vision but have no depth perception.
  • Woolly Mammoths did not live in SoCal because, at 80 degrees Fahrenheit, the climate was too warm for furry coats. (Other mammoth and mastodon varieties thrived here.)
  • The American Lion has now been recategorized as the Giant Jaguar.
  • The now-extinct Short-Faced Bear was about 6 feet tall when on all fours and about 13 feet tall when standing threateningly on its hind legs (think, bear of elephant proportions). It is the largest carnivorous mammal to have ever lived in North America.
  • The famous tusks on saber-tooth cats (not tigers) were brittle and very breakable. They could only be used on boneless body parts, such as the throat and the belly. This means that a saber-tooth cat usually had to turn its prey over before getting in a death strike.
  • Wounded and even temporarily paralyzed saber-tooth cats were cared for by other members of their pride until they healed.
  • Giant sloths moved slowly because they “walked” on their ankle bones.
  • Prehistoric male horses had long canines for battling one another over rights to females.
  • Dinosaurs did not live in SoCal because the land was under water. (New specifications for being a “dinosaur” exclude all water creatures as well as terrestrial creatures with crocodile-like pelvises.)

On Saturday, Carlos attended a classmate’s birthday party and then played LILA soccer. You would think he’d be exhausted after that, but he hurried home to play even more soccer!

Today, I officially became our ward’s Adult Sunday School teacher. Ha! Only the church will “hire” me to teach--and the earnings are purely spiritual! (For you Mo*s out there, here is an article that fits nicely into current Sunday School readings:
http://maxwellinstitute.byu.edu/publications/jbms/?vol=6&num=2&id=145&print.)

Actually, I have had a couple of phone interviews with Los Angeles charter schools. We will see if anything materializes there. We could really use the extra income now that we are paying off Kirk’s exorbitant loans from Wharton. With the combination of Kirk’s expensive education and my kids’ private school tuition, I have decided that our family’s “currency” must be learning.

The rest of the week’s happenings include fighting random illnesses and getting rear-ended in a no-damage, no-injury accident—not fun things, but still within the “least objectionable” category of negative events. We see God’s help and care for us in these many small ways.

Sunday, February 19, 2012

Update 19 Feb 2012


I spent this week in a rush to scan, crop, and upload old pictures before the holiday weekend. Most of these pictures were from the early 80s, and it has been a real pleasure to relive pieces of my childhood through them. I've decided that I must have used up my life's allotment of cuteness by the time I turned five. ;)


On Tuesday, I made a special dinner of shepherd's pie with strawberries and chocolate sauce for Valentine's Day. We enjoyed a fun family dinner together and a happily simple evening together. I am so grateful for my little family and for the opportunity to experience love from a parent's perspective.


On Thursday, we shared dinner with Kirk's sister Kristina, stepbrother Anton, sister-in-law Megan, nephew Jonathan (3), and niece Katherine (9 months). Jonathan was really impressed by Carlos's considerable collection of cars, and Carlos enjoyed the admiration. Katherine is at a very cute and snuggly phase and provided me with a much-needed baby fix.


The kids had no school on Friday, so we spent the day at Disneyland. It felt crowded, but we waited no longer than 30 minutes for any ride. We especially enjoyed the free play/musical of “Aladdin” in California Adventureland. That side of the park has been undergoing major renovations for a few years, and new signs now promise a finished product for this upcoming summer. It will include a significant “Cars” area that I'm sure Carlos will love.


On Saturday, we joined Kirk's stepsiblings Jenny, Liz, and Anton in remembering and honoring their mother Ann Lemon Rytting, who passed away in January. The members of her church congregation put on a very touching memorial service with beautiful music and loving talks, and it was impressive and comforting to see how much of an influence Ann had upon those around her.


Saturday afternoon, I drove the kids to Las Vegas to see my family. We planned this excursion at the beginning of January when Kirk had travel plans in Russia. Unfortunately, his plans changed but did not include Monday off for Presidents' Day. It was hard to leave him after having him gone for so much time recently, but it simply wasn't practical for him to make the trip (Saturday evening through Sunday afternoon only). One unanticipated benefit of this was that Kirk got to spend some extra time with his stepsiblings.

The kids and I arrived in Las Vegas to house full of grandparents, uncles, and aunts. They have loved the excessive attention, and it is so great to see them enjoying my family after having lived far away for so many years. The kids have this coming week off of school, so we plan to spend a couple of extra days with my parents.


And the old pictures? After having stolen them from my parents' home at Christmas, I returned them safely and in record time. It feels great to have those memories digitized, more accessible, and hopefully in a more enduring format than their fading prints. I've also been pleased by my parents support and shared enthusiasm. They've begun searching out old pictures and negatives to continue the digitization project. It's all been a fun and meaningful way to preserve our “family history.”


Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Valentine's Day

Happy Valentine's Day! 


Monday, February 13, 2012

Update 12 February 2012

This week Lauren has asked me, Kirk, to be the “guest blogger” on Entropy so that I can share my experiences of my recent business travels.  Technically it’s our entire family’s blog so I could write in at any time, but Lauren has such a gift with the English language that I leave the writing to her.

As Lauren pointed out in earlier postings, last week I returned from a business trip that took me to Kazakhstan and Russia.  This was the first time visiting either place for me, so I was definitely looking forward to experiencing new cultures from a unique part of the world.

Lauren did an excellent job of explaining my purpose for traveling to Kazakhstan (see Jan 29 posting) – which I must admit surprised me a little to know that she was actually paying attention when I was blah-blahing to her about my work.  To summarize, I’m leading a project to essentially set up a mid-sized business infrastructure, operations, and physician network for Medtronic in Kazakhstan from almost square one, while at the same time positioning us, the government, and the market for sustainable, future growth.  Oh, and I have about three months to do it.  It’s definitely exciting and feels very entrepreneurial (which I love), but it’s also a huge challenge, not made any easier by a significant language barrier.

The strong impression I have of my four days in Almaty, Kazakhstan is how warm, friendly, and hospitable the Kazakh culture is.  Due to their location along the crossroads of several ancient spice routes, the Kazakh people have millennia-old traditions of welcoming strangers into their communities and homes that are reflected in their lifestyle and values even in today’s modern society.  They are very proud of their land, their culture, and their history, and are happy to spend significant amounts of time sharing these things with visitors.  They will also make sure you never leave their home, or country, on an empty stomach – I must have gained 10 pounds while I was there.  And, vegetarians beware!  There is no such thing as a vegetarian meal in Kazakhstan.  Every meal is loaded with meat, but it all tastes really good (more on this later).  Also, meals are long and very social.  If you’re in a large group, between each course (usually around 5-7 courses at dinner) someone will stand up and give a toast.  These are meant to be flowery and eloquent, not short and sweet.  One night we were eating with the physicians and I was compelled, as the visiting guest, to stand and give a toast through an interpreter.  It felt a little like fast and testimony meeting in the LDS church – and odd sensation but a fun experience.  I was glad to have had the opportunity to participate in this part of their rich culture.

One piece of history and culture that stood out for me is their attachment to horses.  The horse seems to be as much a part of their identity as the baguette might be to the French.  As a largely nomadic culture until the last couple of centuries (there are still pockets of nomadic people living in Kazakhstan), the horse was seen as an extension of a person herding domestic livestock and hunting for food.  In addition to work, the horse was used in recreation and entertainment – being the focus of many local sports and games, such as one called “catch the girl” (you probably get the picture – girl on a horse gets a head start around a track, if the boy can catch up to her before the finish line he gets a kiss). 
 
But, they weren’t done finding uses for the horse – it is also a staple of their diet.  Yes, you read that correctly, horse meat is by far the most common meat in Kazakhstan.  You might find that completely repulsive, that an animal that can do so much work with you and is a part of your games can also be served for dinner, but it all depends on your frame of reference and what you grew up with.  (For example, people from India find it absolutely appalling and sacrilegious that we eat beef.)  To their credit, the Kazakhs distinguish very clearly between the horses they ride and the horses they eat – they are rarely combined.  Oh, and by the way, horse tastes really, really good.  I highly recommend ordering horse steak when you have the chance. J  Pictures below:  1. Horse steak with horse milk, 2. Plate of small, thin pieces of horse meat to be grilled at the table on a hot stone (pictured with the vegetables on it). 
I was impressed with how mixed the Kazakh people are culturally and physically.  The Kazakh language (I’m told) originates from Turkish, yet their physical features are a mix of East Asian and Slavic – making for some very interesting combinations.  It’s not uncommon to see someone with dark hair, distinctly Asian facial features, …… and blue eyes.  They seem to have also incorporated different parts of the Russia/Slavic culture, the Chinese culture, and the Middle Eastern culture into their own.  This has made them quite tolerant of different religions, among other things.

The only real drawback of my time in Almaty was the thick black plume of pollution that hung in the air when I arrived.  I quickly learned why the Weather.com report for Almaty said “smoke”, instead of fog (or cloudy or partly sunny) – something I’d never seen before.  The country, especially the two big urban centers, is going through its own rapid modernization and is trying to meet the demands of this expanding economy with an outdated, Soviet-era industrial infrastructure.  To make matters worse, Almaty is surrounded on three sides by mountains, which means all of this pollution from unregulated cars and old factories with low smoke stacks gets trapped by a winter inversion effect (Utahns will understand).  I arrived on a Sunday morning and was fortunate enough that my local colleague took me on a drive into the mountains that afternoon to show me some of the beauty of the country.  When we got above the pollution layer, I was amazed by the beautiful, snowy landscape.  Very pristine and rugged.  A few days later a snow storm came through and swept out all the pollution.  I finally saw Almaty with blue skies overhead and the snow sparkling in the sun, which is the mental picture I will take with me.

As far as business is concerned, the physician training sessions went well and I was impressed with how eager and willing they were to learn.  We had some significant challenges with the expert lecturer we brought (she is not pictured below), but I won’t bore you with those details.  When I left Almaty I was given a very nice gift by the local team leader (standing in the picture below) – a drawing of a nomadic scene on sheep skin.  Another reminder of how hospitable they are.
Regarding Russia, my overwhelming impression of Moscow is cold – BITTER COLD!  To be fair, it was very cold to the locals also.  They had just been hit with a massive cold spell sweeping across Europe when I arrived, so I was quite unlucky with my timing.  The first two days I spent running from building to car and spending my nights in my hotel (fortunately it was a large hotel with several restaurants, shops, etc.).  On Saturday I had some free time and my colleagues offered to take me around the city to see the famous sites.  When we started around 10:00 am the temperature was -26 degrees Celsius, with a wind chill factor between -35 and -40.  I have never been so cold in my life.  Seriously.  To give you an idea of how cold it was, taking pictures, which required at least one glove to come off, had to be spaced at about 5-10 minute intervals so that my hand could get some feeling back in it before the next picture.  I had planned to spend about 5-6 hours at the Red Square and the surrounding downtown sites, but I only lasted about 4 hours before heading back, and that was with some driving, a few stops in churches and a cafe, and an hour for lunch in a restaurant.

I am grateful, however, for the things I did see.  St. Basil’s Cathedral, the famous Russian church with the multicolored towers and patterned, onion-shaped domes, was honestly breathtaking.  It’s not very big, but its unique design/patterns/colors and amazing architecture make it one of the most beautiful religious buildings in the world, in my opinion – at least from the outside.  Surprisingly, the inside is comprised of many small rooms connected by small, narrow hallways.  It’s not intended to be a place for mass meetings.  That purpose is handled by the largest cathedral in Russia, the Cathedral of Christ the Savior – also amazing and beautiful in its own way (2nd picture below).
 
At one point when I was walking across the Red Square I stopped to take it all in.  A little over twenty years ago, during a time I still very much remember from my childhood, huge nuclear warheads, battalions of tanks, and massive armies of soldiers paraded over the very spot I was standing in a show of force to the outside world.  When I was in my early teens it was unthinkable for an American boy to believe he would one day see the Kremlin with his own eyes.  Yet, here I was with unfettered access to areas of the Kremlin that used to require dangerous, covert spy missions just to snap one picture.  It made me appreciate just a little more the small camera button Steve Jobs put on my iPhone.
As fascinating as these places are, after almost two weeks I was longing to get back home – not only to thaw out in sunny California but to see my family again.  I’m realizing that the value I place in having these experiences lies in my ability to share them with Lauren and, especially, my kids.

Sunday, February 5, 2012

Update 5 February 2012


It feels like this week’s theme was waiting—waiting to hear back on job applications, waiting for Kirk to return, even waiting for basics like photo processing. Sometimes there’s only so much you can do when the next step depends on someone else!

Last Sunday, we began a new duties/rewards system. It’s something that one of Arianna’s therapists suggested, although I was frank in reminding her that Arie has never responded to our various attempts at charts during these past six or seven years. I expected this round to be equally abominable but, after a full week, am amazed at its success. Both of my kids wake up around 6:30 and often waste the next 2 ½ hours before school with distracting activities (and even distractions that distract from the distracting activities). So, I re-read our discipline Bible, 1-2-3 Magic, and created a new kind of chart—not a chore chart, but an on-task chart. This is because Arianna really struggles with “self-care,” especially when it involves multistep directions and process completion (and, no surprise, loafy little Carlos takes advantage of the time we spend reminding Arie). The chart is simple in that it identifies 10 to-do activities for each day; I tell the kids once that it is time to start ______ and they have ______ minutes to do it, and that is my only direction. If/when they forget what they’re supposed to do, I direct them to check the chart. They must then come to me for clearance to mark off the task. We’ve had mornings when, for example, a barefoot Arie asked if she could check off “get dressed;” I simply said, “No. You’re not dressed.” Then, instead of me telling her what was missing, she had to figure it out. It sounds harsh, but somehow it has made all the difference. Arianna is exceling at the chart and finally seems to grasp what I expect of her each day. I really didn’t change our existing routine, but somehow the chart has made it clear for her. This has been one of her happiest and most pleasant weeks ever. Now, being wary of a bazillion failed charts in the past, I built an extra reward system into our new one: each kid earns one dime per job, which means that he or she has the potential to earn one dollar a day through basic and essential self-care activities. We all know that Arianna is a materialistic little bugger, and she is so excited to be earning her own money—and, of course, to be making plans for it. I am so proud of her for embracing this new system and I am so glad that the chart system (let’s be honest: anything) is finally helping.   


Now we come to Monsieur Carlos. It is not coincidence that we nicknamed our little man “Loafy.” If ever there were a definition of a loaf, it is Carlos. I think that Carlos would exhibit loaf-like tendencies under any conditions and in any family, but the extra time that we have spent helping Arie has turned Carlos into a Super Loaf. He has no problem with self-care. He has no issues with multistep directions or process completion. In fact, I believe that, at heart, Carlos is probably the most “with it” member of our family—a veritable ESFJ. But he can turn into the loafiest, laziest, slow-as-molasses-est person when it suits him, which it often does. And at 60 solid, hard-as-rock pounds, Carlos can no longer be made to do something. Enter the dime/chart system, and you begin to see an obvious conflict of interests. Yes, Carlos likes money, but it is not his motivator. He is a creature of comfort, motivated by Blanky and loafing. So setting a time limit, saying that he cannot spend two hours getting dressed—these things have inflamed our lay-about son. Whereas this week was unexpectedly easy with Arianna, I came into a world of hate and testing chez Carlitos. He reminds me daily that he does not like the “dime game.” And “it’s not fair that Arie has more dimes!” We have had tantrums and room wrecking galore from the usually easy-going Loaf. Well, I am sticking to my guns. Carlos may not be the money hog that his sister is, but he will eventually see some benefit in accruing enough dimes to earn a trip to Toys R Us.


I could blah blah about the job hunt, soccer, cleaning, and so on, but for me the true highlight of the week was discovering more than 1000 old picture negatives. I had to hunt for a place that still digitizes negatives; my favorite stand-bys (CVS and Target, because they use Kodak printing) are transitioning to the digital age and going negative free. L I was lucky to literally be my local Target’s last customer for negative digitalization: their machine got carried away immediately after they finished my negatives. So, I have been overjoyed, ecstatic, elated, etc. to browse through the hundreds of “lost” images. (It probably goes without saying that I clearly have a picture obsession.) Among the images were many of Kirk’s old pictures, including his summer in Boston, Anton’s BYU graduation, and Kirk’s hang gliding episode. There were also pictures from our wedding, honeymoon, and first year of marriage. It was amazing and humbling to realize how quickly time has passed in these eleven years. So many priceless memories that we get to enjoy again and again thanks to technology!   



Well, barring an Air France strike, Kirk should return to us late tomorrow (Monday). He’s had a great experience in terms of what he’s accomplished for business and what he’s enjoyed on a personal level.